Many dads say communicating well with their wives and their children is a big challenge. They believe that “talking better” will improve the situation. It can sure help. However, I’ve found that “listening better” is even more fruitful. I’m increasingly becoming more intent on listening to the voice of my wife, as she relays what God puts on her heart. Recently, my wife prompted me to sit down and chat with her about the pace at which we’re running. Too many dials in our lives are either in the yellow or red zone. We need to find a more sustainable pace, a better rhythm. She’s right. (She also told me to drink less coffee, but hey, no one’s perfect). I find it interesting that wisdom is often personified in the Bible. And, all the instances I can think of refer to her as a “she”. Hmm. Intriguing. Proverbs 3:13-18 says, in part, that wisdom is a tree of life and we’re blessed when we hold her fast. Dad, if you want to become a better communicator, perhaps it’s time to listen to the voice of wisdom. She is calling.

7 Tips on Managing Stress in Your Home: Want to bring the stress levels down in your home? Try picking up a hobby the whole family could enjoy for some added relief and maybe even a little fun. Puzzles, video games, fishing, anything you guys like to do to help unwind.

Why You Should Seek Wisdom From Men Around You: Building relationships is a crucial tool in your fatherhood arsenal. Finding men with whom you can have transparent conversations opens the door to hidden wisdom, accountability, and encouragement. Not to mention, your kids will learn the importance of leaning into and seeking authenticity from their relationships too!

“I remind myself every morning: Nothing I say this day will teach me anything. So if I’m going to learn, I must do it by listening.” – Larry King

“Wisdom is the reward you get for a lifetime of listening when you’d have preferred to talk.” – Doug Larson

Listen well. This week, see if you can have an 80/20 conversation. It’s one where you talk 20% of the time, and listen 80% of the time. Some prompts like, “Why do you think that?”, or “Tell me more.”, or “How did you arrive at that conclusion?” can help you keep them talking while you’re deeply listening. Move the needle on your listening capability, and see if you don’t immediately feel more connected and in step with those around you.

Kent Evans
Author of The Manhood Journey, co-founder of Manhood Journey and Father On Purpose.

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