One of the most effective tools Satan uses against fathers is guilt. Guilt over how we lived in the past and over how we’re living now. If you’re going to be an intentional father, guilt is one obstacle you must identify and destroy.

Do any of these obstacles sound like you?

  1. The Ignorance Obstacle > “I didn’t know it was my job.”
  2. The Inertia Obstacle > “I don’t know where to start.”
  3. The Delegation Obstacle > “I’ll let someone else do it.”
  4. The Guilt Obstacle > “Who am I to talk?”
  5. The Procrastination Obstacle > “I’ve got plenty of time.”
  6. The Despair Obstacle > “My kid’s too far gone.”

Let’s talk about The Guilt Obstacle. In this post, we’ll cover how it sounds, how it interferes, how to remove it and how Scripture can help us overcome it.


How the Obstacle Sounds

The guilt obstacle sounds like this: “I’ve got my own issues—who am I to talk?”


How the Obstacle Interferes

Kent Evans, founder of Manhood Journey says, “The guilt Satan drags us through is like quicksand, it envelopes us. The more we wrestle with it, the deeper we sink.”

Understand there are two types of guilt: past guilt and present guilt. Watch out for both.


Past guilt deceives us by saying, “If your kids ever knew about (insert regretful choices x, y and z), they’d never listen to you.”


Present guilt tells us the lie, “Once you get it all together, you can then step into the leadership role for your children.”

With present guilt, we must parent from God’s Word, not our own “perfection.” You’re not perfect and neither am I, shocker right? However, God is perfect. We must use His word as our guide, not our own track record.

Find courage in the lives of men like Paul, David, Abraham, Noah—all of whom had major shortcomings. If these men of God can lead despite their wicked pasts, we can too.

Remember dad, no one else has the God-ordained responsibility of raising your children. If you wait until you’re perfect, prepped and ready, guess what? You’ll never do anything. Whatever guilt you have in your past or present, as a dad, it’s our job to