It might be the first step of being a godly dad. You’ll have to admit that you aren’t perfect. To others, of course. But also, to yourself! That’s where things gets tricky. : )


In order to “resist despair” we need to acknowledge when we’ve blown it. This post will help you with that.


QuestionDo you feel like a failure? Is it because you’re comparing yourself to some unrealistic expectation? Is the enemy in your head, trying to get you to focus on your flaws?



Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit who gives life has set you free from the law of sin and death.” —Romans 8:1-2 (NIV)


What to do when you’ve blown it as a dad: the home-run apology.

Maybe regret over your past isn’t your problem. However, if you’re anything like many other dads I’ve talked with, you need some encouragement: stop wallowing in past failures!

I’ve heard from dozens of guys who feel like a complete failure as a dad – I’ve been there! But, we can’t let our mistakes define our future.

One key tool for you to resist this feeling of failure is to learn the art of the apology. This is one of the best tools I know of for removing the feeling of failure from our fathering. I call it the “Home Run” apology.



There are four steps to this apology, just like four bases on a baseball field, and we don’t score until we make it all the way home—the last step is crucial when you’ve blown it as a dad.

First Base

When you realize you’ve sinned against your child, apologize quickly – as soon as you can after the blunder.

Second Base

Be blunt and honest – don’t minimize the offense. If you yelled at them at the top of your lungs, don’t say, “Sorry I became so animated.” Get real.

Third Base

Ask them to consider forgiving you (don’t demand it right away)