I can’t believe 2018 is over, but we have to move on to 2019. While you’ve probably made your list of goals for this year, maybe you haven’t thought about your role as a dad yet. Here are nine questions you should ask yourself to start the year strong. Here are 9 questions to kickstart 2019.


The questions that follow come from the most-pressing struggles we have dads asking us about daily. Read this post once for you. Then, read it again and think of a dad who’d be helped if you shared this info with him. Que questions to kickstart 2019…Ready, set, go!

Question #1: Am I winning or losing as a dad?

Most dads, even the good ones, walk around wondering whether they’re doing everything they should be doing as a dad. Are you not sure whether you’re winning or losing as a dad? Proverbs 22:6 tells us if we, “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it,” (ESV). So, this begs the question, what are we “training up” our kids to do?


Eric Ballard recently wrote, What game are you really playing? To help you know where you stand and encourage you. Most dads understand what they say is vital—but do you realize how you act and what you do plays a major role in shaping who your child becomes? Take a second and think about all the words and actions you demonstrate in front of your kids. Are you pushing them toward the eternal or the temporary? Let’s ask ourselves this tough question early and often. You can know whether you’re winning or losing—and how you can actually win.

Question #2: Why am I always angry and what can I do about it?

Anger is a deadly serious issue most dads struggle with. We must learn to deal with anger as dads or we will raise angry kids. You need to know you aren’t alone in this struggle. But, just sharing a common struggle with other dads shouldn’t be the end goal.


We must learn to see our anger, understand where it comes from, what really pushes our buttons and what we should do with that anger. Watch Matt Morgan, the writer of our Field Guide on anger, explain how we should see, source and submit our anger.  


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