How should a husband treat his wife? That’s the first question that popped into my mind when I replayed something that happened recently. My wife had confronted me about how much I’m on my phone. She told me I’m literally a different person when I’m not on my phone.

First Peter 3:7 says, “Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.”

I had to ask myself, was my time on my phone honoring our relationship? Was I too self-absorbed in my own little digital world of social media and text messages? Clearly, I was.

We all use our phones, but do our phones control us? Do our phones change how we’re engaged and discipling our kids in a negative way?

Since I was confronted about this, maybe I can save your wife having to confront you! I want to walk through a few different reactions I thought about during this time. Now, keep in mind as we look at three possible reactions, this is not an exhaustive list, but I’d argue one of these is better than the other two. I’ll let you decide for your house.


Question: How would you react if your family told you you were on the phone too much?


I can be so distracted with my phone. There are times when I’m home after a day’s work and easily get caught up in email, text messages, Facebook, and Candy Crush. I can be present physically but be completely absent mentally. If our phones, or any device, is taking us away from our calling to engage our kids, then we need to do a quick check.

Can you relate? What would your reaction be if your wife did to you what mine did? In thinking about this situation, I had three ways I could react. Well, I’m sure there’s more ways, but at least three came to mind as it relates to how should a husband treat his wife.

Reaction #1 Arrogance