Forever. The honest answer is: forever. It will take forever to disciple your son. When you think you’re done. You aren’t. Keep going. Dont stop. That’s my answer. You need more details? Understood.
Here are a few parameters we use in our guides to help you with a basic structure:
We like to say, “each session can take as long as it takes”. By that we mean, time frames for each activity are purposely not included because one of the main goals of our guides is to help you hang out and talk with your son rather than work through a set, rigid agenda. That said each session is divided into four main sections creating a framework for intentionally discipling your son. Discussions can usually take approximately 45-60 minutes, but that time frame doesn’t account for tossing a football in the yard, playing basketball, and extended discussions.
So, most weeks, an hour per week or less would do wonders. Multiply that one hour per week by forever and you’ll be intentionally discipling your son. Seriously, work to take advantage of the time you have together to build memories as you build up your son early and often.
We recommend standing ready and armed with the five vital principles in your mind. From there, you’ll want to have at least these tools:
Great question. You can do this for free. Schedule a time like #1 from this post. Grab the stuff from #2 in this post. Bam. Go forth and conquer. Many dads can do this well. Now, for the dad who wants to not reinvent the wheel and go with some trusted advisers and wise counsel who’ve gone before you, that’s where Manhood Journey resources come in. Basically, we didn’t skip leg day. We’ve done the work of planning so you’re intentional from the start. We tell you what to say and when to say it.
We have two prices and they each depend on whether you want to do this discipleship thing 1 on 1 with just you and your son or if you want to get other dads and sons together in a small group.
Why am I writing about all of this? Well, #1 because you’ve asked. But #2, the world will tell you that you can’t be a godly father. That you aren’t good enough, smart enough or your son doesn’t like you.
But we’re here to tell you you can. You can intentionally disciple your son. God changes hearts. Just like He can change your heart, He can change your sons’ heart. You can learn and model biblical fatherhood to your family. You can lead your son, we’ll be here ready to help you with tips, tools, resources and events along the way.
We have several tools to help you disciple your child 1 on 1 or in a group. Visit our Resources Page for the full gamut but check out a few highlighted below.
Ryan Sanders is the Director of Outreach at Manhood Journey. Ryan is married to Tonia and they have two daughters and one son. He lives in Reston, Virginia and serves at McLean Bible Church as a regional leader. Learn more about Ryan here and find him on Twitter @RyanSanders.