The Bible describes envy as rot in the bones. All sin kills. But, the sin of envy will eat you up from the inside out. Let’s look at the deadly sin of envy. In this post, we’ll examine what the sin is, how it plays out in your life as a dad and how to eliminate it from your life.



We wrote a full book called 7 Deadly Sins of a Disengaged Dad eBook because there’s a lot to cover about each sin. For now, let’s talk about envy.


What is envy?

Envy is a feeling of discontented or resentful longing aroused by someone else’s possessions, qualities or luck. Envy is bothered when friends do well and is jealous over others. Worse, envy loves when others fail. In Proverbs 14:30, Solomon says of envy it is, “rottenness to the bones”.


How does envy show up in a dad’s life?

The disengaged dad says: “I deserve what you have.”

Many dads tell us they walk around feeling like a failure. Most aren’t failing as badly as they feel, but often they’re trapped in the comparison game. We feel like failures because we’re comparing ourselves to others. We want what someone else has. What we have (or who we are) isn’t good enough.


The disengaged dad is an envious dad. Envy often plays out in our closest relationships. Sure, we see this in a young child who gets angry about another child playing with a toy he wants. But don’t we reveal our hearts as we age? You want your neighbors’ lawn, his car, his home, his job…his wife. The friend on Facebook posts the picture of his new car. You think, huh? How’s he driving that car? He doesn’t deserve that car. You love that car and work hard. You deserve that car more than he does.