The adverse effects of social media are far-reaching and much more damaging than we have even begun to fully understand. While there are many, many problems with teenage interactions on these platforms, we’ll dive into just a handful of negative effects social media has on kids.
On the other hand, there are some benefits (I think) to social media. The idea that we can connect to anyone anywhere is a pretty cool concept. This global sense of community was the original appeal of most social media platforms. There are also creative outlet opportunities that are unique to social media. Plus, these platforms are really great for…well, I can’t think of anything else.
Distraction
The least of our worries is the amount of time and focus social media pulls away from our kids. But it’s still a problem. Constantly checking and rechecking phones that haven’t even buzzed, mindless scrolling through questionable content, and blankly gazing at videos distract our kids from everything around them. Virtual reality has stolen the wonder of actual reality.
Bullying
Social media has given everyone in the world a microphone if they want it. Every thought, feeling, and opinion can be typed out and posted for all to see in a matter of seconds. One (of many) flaws with this is that cowards now have the ability to speak with intense cruelty in ways they never would face-to-face because they can do so safely behind a screen.
Gossip, which has never had a problem getting around, has received an upgrade. Rumors can now spread faster than the speed of sound. Innocent reputations can be ruined with a simple lie and the press of a “send” button.
Unrealistic expectations
Filters, lighting setups, perfect angles, and editing capabilities allow people to post “real” pictures that are little more than fairytales. These images paint a false picture of lives and events that literally seem picture-perfect. This, in turn, creates pressure to try and measure up. But the game is rigged. The standard that is posted is unobtainable. Several studies have linked high social media usage to anxiety and depression. A “not being good enough” cycle is instilled and spins out of control.
Lack of real connection
Social media has contributed to deteriorating interpersonal skills. Face-to-face interaction is uncomfortable. Eye contact is a struggle to maintain. Engaging in and keeping up with in-person conversations are more than problematic. Despite the instant opportunity to connect with millions of people, teenagers are more disconnected from people than they ever have been.
Increase your social media knowledge
These negative aspects of social media are nothing close to an exhaustive list of the damage it can cause. As you decide what parameters you will set as a parent, try to educate yourself on the different platforms your kids want to use. Have open discussions about why they want to use them, the benefits they see in social media, and the drawbacks they are and are not aware of. As parents who want to protect our kids from a dangerous world, the battles we will fight are becoming increasingly virtual. Therefore, educating ourselves on the latest trends in social media will help us know what we’re up against.
