How to Ask Questions That Draw Out Your Child’s Heart

Ever walk away from a conversation and realize you did almost all the talking…again? As dads, we often think our “advice” is what will change our kids, when in reality, it might just be the questions we ask…or don’t ask. In this episode, Kent and Lawson unpack why some men dominate every conversation, why others never ask anything deeper than small talk, and why a humble, curious dad is a great listener instead of a constant lecturer.

Kent tells the story of a simple question that completely disarmed him: “What kind of tension does that cause for you?” That one line forced him to search his own heart, not just react with an opinion. From there, the guys walk through why Jesus asked so many questions, how Proverbs 20:5 paints your child’s heart like deep water, and what it looks like to draw it out instead of just “fixing” everything with quick advice.

You’ll hear super practical examples of questions you can use this week with your kids, your wife, and even that talkative uncle at Christmas. Things like, “What was that like for you?”, “Could you explain that to me a bit more?”, and “What about that excites you or concerns you?” Plus, Kent shares his “clay on the wheel” analogy for shaping a conversation with your child using their words and their goals, not just yours.

If you’ve ever wondered why your kids don’t open up, or you want to be a dad who talks less and understands more, this episode will help you step into holiday gatherings—and everyday moments at home—with a heart that is both curious and humble.

We’ve launched video now! Check out the video version of today’s episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/nktheEfq93o