Your wife isn’t looking for perfection. She knows she doesn’t have that already. Ha. I’m kidding—a little! But seriously, she probably won’t say these words out loud, but she needs you to be more like Jesus. Ephesians 5:25 gives us what that looks like: Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. Here’s what this looks like daily.

#1 Constant Responsibility. Jesus’ love is constant. Loving your wife is your constant responsibility. Your love as a husband is shown by your sacrifice for your wife. You are called to look out for her best interests—constantly. Note: Paul wrote around 125 words to us husbands and then maybe 40 to wives. Interesting. Also interesting, there’s no mention of your responsibility changing depending on your wife’s actions or attitude.

#2 Humble Service. Jesus’s love is humble. He served by washing feet, helping folks, and teaching. That’s the model. If you love with humility, your wife won’t worry/fear her calling to follow you. Handle that task she’s asked about a few times now. You’re called to serve your wife.

#3 Sacrificial love. Jesus’s love is sacrificial. He suffered, was mocked, and was tormented on the cross. Jesus loved and gave His life for the church—His Bride. You’re called to give yourself up for your wife. Marriage is a call to die. Die to yourself—to your schedule—to your pride. Give your life to improving the physical, emotional, and spiritual welfare of your wife.

How to Make Your Wife Feel Loved and Appreciated: The basic definition of grace is getting something you don’t really deserve. For most guys, our wives are living, breathing examples of grace. If we’re smart, we’ll look at our spouses each day and breathe a quick “Thank You, Lord” because we definitely got better than we deserved. But we also need to take things a step further. Instead of just thinking about how special our wives are, we need to start showing them how special they are in a world that’s quick to highlight their “faults.” This article provides some ideas for how husbands can make their wives feel loved and appreciated.

Tim Sparrow On Staying In The Game As A Dad: You show up at your kid’s soccer game thinking it’s just about the score—but what if it’s actually about your soul? In this eye-opening episode, Kent and Lawson sit down with Pastor and Upward Sports League Director Tim Sparrow to explore how youth sports are quietly shaping our character as dads. From yellow cards to halftime prayers, discover how the sideline can be sacred ground for humility, growth, and spiritual leadership. If you’ve ever lost your cool at a game or wondered how to model Christ in the heat of competition, this one’s for you.

Ruth Bell Graham: “A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.”

Max Lucado: “A successful marriage is not the result of two perfect people, but of two people who serve a perfect Savior.”

Ask, Then Do. Review these ideas and do one or all of them over the next few days.

Constant Responsibility: Schedule a time to take a walk or get coffee with your wife and just sit together. Resist making this a business meeting with a full agenda. Make it happen just because.

Humble Service: Ask your wife, “What’s one thing I can help you with right now?” Then follow through on that thing. Say nothing about it. Then, tomorrow, do the same thing. Trust me on this.

Sacrificial Love: Before you settle down at home after work, pray, “Lord, help me go first in sacrifice.” Then, go handle that tough conversation with your kids you’ve been putting off. Or, decide to give up your night so your wife can have a night off.

You get the idea. Let me know how it goes. You got this.

Kent Evans
Author of Don’t Bench Yourself, co-founder of Manhood Journey

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