Some of the winners of a recent popular football game celebrated with a display of public drunkenness. A fair amount of criticism came their way. And, I’d agree, their behavior was unwise. Yet, much of the criticism centered around them not being good “role models”. I found that intriguing. Since this newsletter is probably landing in a dad’s lap – let me ask you –  who are your kids’ role models? For me, I’m not expecting pro athletes to be whole-life examples (aka, ‘role models’) for my kids. Sure, those individuals are generally amazingly disciplined, intelligent and healthy (and, to be fair, they do have a cultural megaphone that when used well does a lotta good). But, “role models”? I’d rather aim my kids toward role models who exhibit the right character, not just the right accomplishments (and, we do sometimes see character and success combined in the same famous person). But, I want to help my kids elevate the godly, the kind and the humble as their role models. As Paul said, “Be imitators of me, as I am of Christ” (1 Cor 11:1). There’s a role model worth emulating.

5 Signs of Anger Issues: What To Look For: If you struggle with anger, you are not alone. It’s an issue for many dads. But how do you know the difference between losing your cool when you get a frustrating text from your teen and when you have deeper anger issues? Healthy anger triggers your flight or fight mode and is God’s way of helping you avoid danger. Unhealthy anger issues will damage your relationship with your kids, model ungodly behavior, and hurt those you love most.

Romans 12: Why Humility Matters: There’s a fine line between confidence and arrogance; and, even as Christian men, we fight the temptation to cross it. Truth is, God never created us to go it alone or live on an island. We’re made to do life together with other believers within the body of Christ. In our ongoing study of Romans 12, we’ll reflect on what it means to keep a humble view of ourselves and the importance of fulfilling our role within the body.

“I’m not a role model… Just because I dunk a basketball doesn’t mean I should raise your kids.”
– Charles Barkley

“When it comes to role models, as a person of faith…I point to God and to my faith. And that’s where I tell my kids to look.”
– Sarah Huckabee Sanders

“My dad was a fabulous role model. I wanted to be just like him.”
– Bart Starr

Ask about role models. Dad, this week, find a moment and ask your kids who their role models are. And, no need to push back or judge (well, if they say Attila The Hun, you might press in). Instead, just ask them WHO and then WHY. Why that person? What about them is worth modeling? If you have older kids, double down with something like, “What does a ‘role model’ mean to you?” Dig into their hearts a bit and see who they find worth emulating and why.

Kent Evans
Author of Bring Your Hammer, co-founder of Manhood Journey

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