I heard this line recently in a Christian video, “It takes two to forgive.” Hmm, really? I’d argue that’s not Biblically accurate. As Jesus died on the cross, He asked God to forgive the people in the act of murdering him (Luke 23:34). It didn’t seem contingent upon their reciprocity (in fact, they proceeded to cast lots for his clothing). In Matthew 6, Jesus told us to forgive others, and He didn’t seem to set any two-way conditions (Matt 6:14-15). Now, clearly, things like trust, restoration and mutual respect are two-way propositions. But, not forgiveness. Forgiveness is something you can extend (hint: for a primer on how, read Eph 1:3-10). I think, as a dad, it’s important for me to teach and model forgiveness for my children. Whether it’s something as insignificant as the driver who cuts us off in traffic, or as complex as a friend or family member betraying us, we need to set the example. We are commanded to forgive (Col 3:13) and blessings flow our way when we do (Mark 11:25). Sometimes, we have to forgive again and again (Luke 17:3-4). Now, I’m not saying it will be easy. It may be extremely difficult. But, when did Jesus say our obedience to Him would be easy?

How to be steadfast and immovable: In a world that challenges men to climb farther and faster, we often find ourselves mired in moral quicksand. Rather than embracing Paul’s challenge to be steadfast and immovable (1 Corinthians 15:57), we stumble and fall. But it doesn’t have to be that way. With God’s help, we can find solid ground in the face of our challenges. We can make a difference in the world by standing firm in our faith.

Proverbs 16: Pleasing God to find peace: We live in a world defined by conflict. Whether it’s war among nations, arguments over politics, or even strife within the body of Christ, tensions run high and patience runs low. Between the external battles people fight with one another and the internal turmoil that steals our serenity, peace feels like a rare and precious commodity. Yet, as we learn from Proverbs 16, God has given us a recipe for genuine peace. Living our lives in a way that pleases Him is the only guaranteed path to peace in our lives and in our world.

“Forgiveness is the giving, and so the receiving, of life.” – George MacDonald

“Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.” – Mark Twain

“And you know, when you’ve experienced grace and you feel like you’ve been forgiven, you’re a lot more forgiving of other people. You’re a lot more gracious to others.” – Rick Warren

“The voice of sin is loud, but the voice of forgiveness is louder.” – D.L. Moody

Forgive. Who do you need to forgive this week? Who has hurt, offended, discounted, ignored, maligned or disrespected you recently? Forgive them. In your heart, ask God to help you not holt against them the offense. Do this not because it’s easy, but because Jesus has told you to do it. Then, turn to your children and guide them through the same process. Help them learn how to forgive. It’s the gift that keeps on forgiving.

Kent Evans
Author of The Manhood Journey, co-founder of Manhood Journey and Father On Purpose.

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