I shared coffee with two dads recently. One was weighing how to advise his adult son who was in a tight spot. He talked through where he was headed and asked for feedback (STOP. Before you proceed. Re-read that last sentence. What a guy.). For the most part, it was solid and Biblical counsel, but there were a couple aspects that were in a bit of a gray area. The other dad astutely asked, “How would your counsel be different than what your son would hear from the world?” As Christians, we are often called to live counterculture lives, distinct from the world. The prevailing themes of our day can tell us to protect ourselves, make sure we come out on top and guard against discomfort or struggle. Yet, often, godly, Bibical wisdom will cut against that grain and point us the opposite direction. Sacrifice, give, ask for nothing in return and love unconditionally. In Romans, Paul urges believers not to be conformed to the pattern of this world (Rom 12:2). We should urge our children along the same path.

What is the Biblical Definition of a Father? In our culture, too many families struggle with absent or disengaged fathers. The results are tragic, but they are preventable. If we look into God’s Word and pursue a biblical definition of fatherhood, we can raise a generation that loves Jesus and makes a difference in this world for His glory.

Overcoming the Power of Anxiety: Let’s be honest… none of us have to look very far to find something to worry about. As guys, we’ve got our hands full trying to keep any number of plates spinning: marriage, fatherhood, career, faith, and so much more. And all of them provide fertile ground for anxiety to take root and grow. But God calls us to let go of our fears and to put our trust fully in Him. In this podcast, we’ll see what the Bible says about dumping worry in favor of steadfast faith in the One who loves us and longs for us to live in His peace.

“The world asks, ‘What does a man own?’ Christ asks, ‘How does he use it?'” – Andrew Murray

“To call yourself a child of God is one thing. To be called a child of God by those who watch your life is another thing altogether.” – Max Lucado

“Lose your life and you will save it. Submit to death, death of your ambitions and favorite wishes every day and death to your whole body in the end: submit with every fibre of your being, and you will find eternal life.” – C.S. Lewis

Don’t conform. As we are offering counsel to our children, especially as they get older, we must ensure it is Biblical. We need our counsel to have the wisdom of God, not just the wisdom of this world. Our world prizes victory over people, freedom from struggle, and happiness above all. Yet, Jesus called us to die to self and put others first. This week, may your advice ring with the pure tone of our Savior’s priorities.

Kent Evans
Author of Bring Your Hammer, co-founder of Manhood Journey

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