There’s a fine line between wanting to be a good example and wanting to become THE object of my kids’ devotion. Paul said, “Be imitators of me as I am of Christ.” (1 Cor. 11:1) He also encouraged us to practice the behaviors we’ve seen in him (Phil. 4:9). Dads often land at one of two extremes. At one end, we believe we’re worthless and just hope our kids learn “what not to do.” That’s not biblical. That’s not what Jesus commands of us. At the other end, we want to be our kids’ hero. We are exactly “who they oughta be” when they grow up. This sounds admirable but sets us (and them!) up for failure. Once they realize we’re flawed humans, they may throw us (and God) overboard. Dad, model a godly life, not a perfect one. How you walk, how you fail, how you love, how you get back on the horse, how you ask for and extend forgiveness. Don’t be the hero. Be an example.

For this week’s post, we have a brand new writer, Pastor Keith Seymour. He has four boys and is the Director of Students at McLean Bible Church in Washington, DC. We’re grateful to bolt on new writers who also happen to be pastors and dads. So cool! Pastor Keith writes about his oldest son who recently celebrated his tenth birthday. His post is a great reminder we all need, that we only have roughly 936 weekends (or less) until our kids turn 18. Read Pastor Keith’s 3-phase parenting plan so we make the most of the weekends we have left.

“When dads set a godly example, kids tend to relate to God in more positive ways.” From our YouVersion Reading Plan, Becoming an Intentional Father.

Speaking of good examples, I spent time on ZOOMs and at lunch with some great men last week. Guys like Will, Brian, Lawson, Doug, Rich, Ryan, and Eric. Each of these men blessed my life. Some asked great questions. Some listened. Some made me laugh. Hope you have guys in your life like these godly and faithful men.

Watch your mouth. As you strive to set a godly example, one key way to do this is with your mouth. If you want a quick primer, read Proverbs 10. No time to read the whole chapter? Fine, just these four verses. Our mouths should be: a fountain of life, like choice silver, bring wisdom, and know what’s acceptable. A tall order for guys like me. How about you?

Make it a great week,

Kent Evans
Author of the The Manhood Journey, co-founder of Manhood Journey and Father On Purpose.

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