Paul wrote to Timothy about the characteristics of an overseer—essentially two church offices: pastor and deacon. What’s this have to do with being a husband/dad? A ton. Before you say you aren’t called to be a pastor/elder/deacon/leader, consider this: You’re called to serve. First Timothy 3:2-7 reveals at least four measures of a godly leader/husband/dad. #1 ACTIONS. Therefore an overseer must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not a drunkard, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money (1 Tim. 3:2-3). You call yourself a believer—act like it. The godly man leads by what he says and does. The idea here is of living blameless. #2 LEADERSHIP. He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive, for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God’s church? (1 Tim. 3:4-5). Paul taught that leading the family well meant you proved you could lead the church. You don’t have to lead at church, but as a husband/dad you are called to lead at home. You are your family’s first pastor. #3 MATURITY. He must not be a recent convert, or he may become puffed up with conceit and fall into the condemnation of the devil (1 Tim. 3:6). You aren’t brand new at being a Christian. You know a thing or two—have experienced highs/lows—highs and aren’t proud/conceited, lows and aren’t discouraged. The work of leading is for the mature believer. #4 INFLUENCE. Moreover, he must be well thought of by outsiders, so that he may not fall into disgrace, into a snare of the devil (1 Tim. 3:7). The godly man has a strong reputation. Outsiders respect you—that’s influence. You’re like Jesus. The folks who may never agree with your faith, still think highly of you.
