In this post we will look at your expectations of being a father and compare them to God as Father. I have no doubt every father has had that moment when he is overwhelmed with the excitement of being a father. That moment doesn’t look the same for all of us. When our wives (or the doctor) first gave us the news, “You’re going to have a baby!”, many of us were overcome with shock. I’m going to be a what? 

Some of us were terrified at the prospect of the responsibility, extra bills and attendance at ballet recitals. Others were ecstatic from the first moment they heard the news. You and your wife had been hoping and planning for this moment. Here it was.


For other dads, the excitement of being a father may have taken months. If the excitement hadn’t arrived yet, it certainly came the moment a nurse placed that tiny bundle of humanity in your hands.

I don’t know when that moment came for you, but when it came, you very likely joined the countless numbers of other fathers as we squelched our fears and said:

“I’m going to be the best dad. Ever.”

And then reality set in.

I’m glad you’re the dad whose desire has been to be the best dad ever. But let’s be frank. You’re not that dad.

In spite of your best intentions and efforts, you’ve blown it along the way. You’re not alone. Residing in each of us is a sin nature that pushes against our best intentions. “For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out” (Rom. 7:18).

We may have started off on the right foot as dads, but we quickly failed. And the failures piled up.

  • We broke promises.
  • Were absent from their lives way too much.
  • Got angry.
  • We were too lenient when it came to ____________.
  • Too strict when it came to _____________.

The growing list of parenting mistakes