“The mouth of the righteous is a fountain of life…” (Proverbs 10:11) You can use your words to speak blessing to your family or to bring destruction. The qualities of a good husband and father include speaking blessing to your family for their joy and flourishing. So, how do we train our mouths to be fountains of life? Keep reading as we learn together.

I recently read the verse above and it hit me like a two-by-four right in the noggin. I recalled the prior weekend, and I wondered, “Was my mouth a fountain of life?” to which had to admit, in many moments, it was not. I felt a deep conviction and resolved to model Biblical manhood to do what Scripture says about how to speak blessing to my family.

 

My hunch, if you’re raising boys or girls, you may, on occasion, not use your mouth in the most productive manner, even if your intentions are to speak life to your family. Although, you might be the exception. If you are, my sincere apologies for offending you. Please forward this post to someone normal.

 

But, assuming you’re something like me, let’s do this together. So let’s dive into Proverbs 10 and unpack what it says about how we use our mouths, and maybe we can mine some wisdom that helps us get this right in the future.

 

A tale of two mouths

All by itself, chapter 10 of Proverbs is a how-to-use-our-mouth clinic. In just thirty-two verses, we see sixteen different references to our mouths: nine focus on how the mouth is used by the wicked or foolish; while seven focus on the wise or righteous.

On the dark side:

  • “the mouth of the wicked conceals violence” (10:6, 11)
  • “a babbling fool will be ruined” (10:8, 10)
  • “with the mouth of the foolish, ruin is at hand” (10:14)
  • “he who spreads slander is a fool” (10:18)
  • “the mouth of the wicked [brings forth] what is perverted” (10:32)

On a more positive note:

  • “the mouth of the righteous is a fountain of life” (10:11)
  • “on the lips of the discerning, wisdom is found” (10:13)
  • “he who restrains his lips is wise” (10:19)
  • “the tongue of the righteous is as choice silver” (10:20)
  • “the lips of the righteous feed many” (10:21)
  • “the mouth of the righteous flows with wisdom” (10:31)

As a Father, my mouth can be one of my greatest enemies. But, it shouldn’t be that way! If I want to be a godly father, my mouth should be a source of blessing and encouragement. What flows from it should be life-giving, not spirit-crushing. However, I fail often in this regard.

 

Although, sure, sometimes I must deliver a rebuke, or help my sons see they’re in error. Even that, I could do with grace and love (Galatians 6:1). But, so often, I don’t.

 

Fixing the source

You may have this same struggle. If you do, I can help you find some good news, but maybe not right where you’d expect to locate it. The issue with our mouths isn’t really in our mouths. It’s in our hearts.

 

“The good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth what is good; and the evil man out of the evil treasure brings forth what is evil; for his mouth speaks from that which fills his heart.” (Luke 6:45)

 

So, if I want my mouth to be a blessing and not a curse, I must store up things in my heart that fit that mold. God’s word, prayer, time in worship. All these things are a down payment on the words I’ll use later.

 

Finally fathers, I urge you to use your words to bless your spouse and children. And, if you’re struggling to do this, join me in digging into your heart and cleaning out the source.

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About the Author:

Ryan Sanders is the Director of Outreach at Manhood Journey. He is married to Tonia and they have three children. He is currently a doctoral student at The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary where he received the Master of Divinity. He is a Fellow at The Colson Center for Christian Worldview and serves as Lay Pastor at McLean Bible Church in Washington, D.C.