Are you an angry dad? Let’s talk.
Dads tell us anger is a big deal. Let’s explore ways to remove it from our hearts and homes. Anger is not to be trifled with. It’s like a fire that can burn our relationships and witness for Christ. Let’s explore some tools and insights to stop anger before it damages your life.
Facing the damage anger can cause.
We’ve surveyed thousands of dads. Many of them tell us anger is their number one enemy. It’s one of their biggest struggles. Maybe you can relate. It’s the frustration that sneaks up, spills over, and leaves a path of sadness and destruction.
For the dad who wants to disciple his family in Christ, anger can be a massive obstacle. Let’s explore how we can remove it together.
When anger takes over, everything suffers.
Do you walk around at 211?
Anger doesn’t always erupt out of nowhere. Often, it’s simmering. Just below the surface. We’re already walking around at 211-degrees, and just one small thing can tempt us to hit the boiling point.
It may be something tiny. A sharp word at home. A tense moment at work. Or, that stoplight that “makes us late”.
The problem is us and our simmering hearts. We need our temperature reduced. We need to look under the hood and check our resting heart temp.
The good news: we can do this. God’s Word and His Spirit will guide us and bring fresh, cool water to our hearts and minds.
Think your anger is “righteous”? Unlikely.
Many dads know only one verse on anger: Ephesians 4:26, “Be angry and do not sin.” So we assume, “Anger is ok, it’s what we do in our anger that is sin.”
But look closer:
- Just a verse later, Paul warns that anger gives the devil a foothold (Eph. 4:27).
- He also tells us to put anger away (Eph. 4:31).
- Elsewhere, anger is listed alongside jealousy, idolatry, and malice (2 Cor. 12:20; Gal. 5:20; Col. 3:8).
We’d never say, “Idolatry is ok. It’s what you do in your idolatry that is harmful.”
Don’t be fooled. Most anger isn’t righteous, it’s destructive. Don’t manage it. Remove it
Snag a sample from our Anger Free Dad Digital Course to learn more.
Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.
James 1:19–20
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Be not quick in your spirit to become angry, for anger lodges in the heart of fools.
Ecclesiastes 7:9
You have my personal guarantee.
I believe God wants you to walk in peace and freedom. In that light, I think His Holy Spirit can enable us to be slow to anger.
I’m walking proof. I still have my moments. But, my wife and kids would tell you those moments are fewer and farther between.
With God’s leading you can radically lower your “walking around temp” and lead with calm strength, even in life’s toughest moments.
None of our tools is “the answer”, but, I promise they will point you to the answer: a closer walk with Jesus, and a deeper understanding of what’s driving your anger.
If you try them and they don’t help you simmer down, let us know by email and we’ll see if we can help you in some other way.
Break free from anger’s grip on the YouVersion Bible App.
Every dad wrestles with moments that test his patience. But anger shouldn’t control your story. In this 7-day reading plan, you’ll uncover biblical truth and practical tools to help you recognize where anger starts and how to stop it before it takes over.
Each day will guide you toward peace, patience, and strength rooted in Christ. It’s time to let go of frustration and step into fatherhood with a calmer heart and clearer mind.
Don’t just manage your anger.
Eliminate it.
The Anger Free Dad course is for dads who are serious about removing anger from their parenting. Through bible-based lessons and practical tools, men learn to identify, surrender, and overcome their anger. We look intently at what God’s word says about removing anger, and we strive to build peace at home.
✔ 21 video lessons with biblical strategies
✔ 25 reflection-filled worksheets
✔ Tools to uncover root causes
✔ Guides for lasting peace and calm
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Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice.
Ephesians 4:31
